I have Bricscad V15, but I don't have a direct answer. I use the BKG routines to delete all existing layer filters that don't start with company prefix, then create company standard filters. It seems the last filter created is the active on the layer dialog/filter, which for me is non xref layer names "~*|*". I skimmed the code but couldn't see where it was "activated". Perhaps it is just a function of creation. But the "used" status doesn't seem to be an option for creation of layer filters in Briscad layer dialog, nor lisp.
So my only suggestion is that if it would work for you to set a lisp created layer filter active, try the BKG routines Roy posted.