Thats the kind of thing that happens to me.You both on 2006?Partial open can be carried out in the following fashion:
Go to
open the file and click on the arrow next to the open button.There should be a drop down list, select
Partial Open.You can then choose what to open in your drawing,by sepcifying the layers.Once in the drawing you can use
Partiaload to specify what you want loaded next time the drawing is opened,you can even slect views that you just wnat loaded.Should help if your loading big portions of your drawing that you dont need.Ive heard of many CAD users working from one huge XREF this way,each had their view marked out on a drawing,so the knew what section theyd be working upon.